there is a constructive way to “vent” frustrations and irritations: doing it boho style!

the last time we checked most of us are comprised of living vibrating cellular components.

dancing on the outside vibrating on the inside, @bassnectar leads the way!

from what we understand, we all need to eat, drink, rest, have blissful sexual explorations, and eliminate.

* we all are living life in a world full of obstacles and challenges.

* we all have goals and dreams

* we all seek listeners, and at times will overstep understanding and yell so loud because we want others too listen so badly.

* we have all felt wronged by other people, regardless if this is the case or not, it’s easy to attach a personal emotion and pain

* we are all humans (well most of us, but that is another post)

so where am I going with this. we’ve been discussing a lot about community and what it means to us. and I think sometimes this can be too general of a term. sometimes as the path shares more and more understanding, there comes a time to share thoughts and expressions. and by all means, sharing is only represented by those who have something to say, and by those who are interested in listening. timing in our lives always determines the case of our listeners. it’s nothing personal, it’s just life.

when it comes down to venting, releasing built up emotion, frustration, and thought, there comes a point where we just have to blow our lids. we cannot deny the path of energy, it is never lost, it is only transferred, because of this, it’s important to address this feeling when it arrises. otherwise it lives and dwells in the mind body and soul, until something really non related blows it out of proportion. we try so hard not to bombard others, and if we really truly care about this, then that leaves no opportunity to blow a lid regardless of the energy propulsion.

when dealing with these types of energies this is what we have experienced, and this is how we approach and navigate. one way is not always the way for others, but it is what works magically for us. so I feel compelled to share, in the interest that it may help others find more peace and harmony within.

there is always a time for explosion of energy, choose your outlets wisely

1. Acknowledge the source:

when the energy is in our face, when the irritation is building and or rising, shone and myself will ask each other if we are in a place for one of us to talk out our “confusions” so that we can find a clearer path. at times it is not the right time, and we understand this, at times we may have other pressing priorities in the moment. we simply acknowledge that throughout the next couple of days we will come back to a place where we can discuss it further. we don’t take it personal, because we know that these emotions don’t go away, we are not worried about losing our train of thought, if anything, we have a little more time to think about what words we can say so that we understand ourselves and can further our communication with each other.

2. Acknowledge an appropriate setting and time:

when the time is appropriate: meaning shone is not in a creative place working on this week’s photoshoot, ( I learned the hard way, that when you interrupt somebody in their creative time, you are never going to get the time and awareness that you need, and you are doing an injustice (in my case) to the forward creation of work and progress for your company. (it sure does keep us in perspective, business partners, lovers, best friends) or involved with other things such as helping our roommate get food and nourishment for her long night of work……there is always something that needs to get done. (know the priority, and refrain from blurting)

so when the time is available, and trust me it always is, sometimes what you think might take hours takes a few alert minutes, especially when both parties are present, listening, and interacting, then that is the time to proceed. we have learned to approach it with an even mellow mind (as much as possible), because regardless of the outcome, if we raise our emotion and intensity, it’s a natural evolution to bringing it out in the other, and then it leads to a discussion that is furthest from the point at which brought the conversation together in the first place.

keep in mind if you are unsure as to what you are venting about, then maybe you need not to express it, reflect, think and try to understand the source, otherwise your bitch session has been completely pointless and precious time has been eaten up. precious time= time for creation, musical eargasms, mind blowing orgasms and sexual activities. think about it. if you don’t feel like you have enough time for these luxurious, take a deeper look at where you spend your time. It hit me like a hurricane when it hit me!

regardless of the energy shared, there needs to be an understanding from the source, at least a step so that the first question or response can be delivered to create an understanding listener.

3. Understand what is to be discussed, and not open a flood gate for all things in your life that need addressed

rambling on and taking more of anothers person time when they have gifted you enough shows a lack of compassion. it’s like the little boy who cried wolf, make your time count, otherwise nobody will be available.

4. Know what results you are after:

-are you looking for a solution
- are you just in need to have somebody listen
- are you just talking because you don’t know what else to do

know that when you are requesting another persons time, respect in return and take the time to listen and hear what you have compelled them to share or speak. relax your brain, quit thinking of what you want to say, honor the time the other has given you, and return. keep it all balanced, or you again will wipe out your sources.

running around venting to anybody and everybody who you think is listening to you leads to dissatisfaction in results. interact with purpose always. or become a leaky faucet that everybody runs away from.

life is magical with community

as a community in this boho world we all stand together, we all have many things in common that has crossed our paths. we are each at different levels of awareness, bliss, and self explorations. let us all be kind and compassionate to each others time and efforts. this in itself will bring our community closer and closer, and will truly help create our 24/7 connection to inspiration love and bliss.

georgette and shone