In our recent adventures, the question was brought up:
how to give a mind blowing blow job.
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A blog presentation and conversation between @gcrush and @nopantsdance
–>@gcrush
What I love most about this question, is that there is no universal truth. It really depends on the individual, the creativity, the desire, and what the two (or more) persons involved brings to the table. Nobody has to be a sex expert to understand the underlying foundation of a mind blowing blow job.
flashing through my mind at first, was: technique. But as I really started to think about it, and tumble various pictures of blow jobs on my tumblr, and self reflecting on all of my own personal experiences, I soon thought, (and by all means, these are just my thoughts, so please understand, I welcome any and all input from you reading this post!) that regardless of what technique is involved, the thought, love, and connection is most important to me. From there the explorations truly become magical!
How many of you just truly love to look at a penis? Do you like to look at an erect penis, or a limp one. Do you like them all pierced, shaved, tattood? Have you ever thought about it?
How much time per week do you spend looking at your partners penis? while they are in the shower, while they are peeing, why they are shaving, why they are masturbating, while they are dressing, while they are sleeping?
I personally love to look at penis. In fact my favorite word to say is cock! I love the way it sounds! There is nothing I love to see more than shone’s cock, however, I love and enjoy seeing all the penis I can!
I love to look at his penis all of the time, because it helps me develop a closer relationship with his penis. I remember a time in my life when I was so shye and could hardly handle the sight of my boyfriends penis. I was so shye! No really I was!!!
Things are much different now. Shone has really shared with me a sexuality that is so beautiful, so magical, and one that is not lacking of expression, or lacking of exploration. One that is kind and accepting without judgement. A love that creates a beautiful foundation to communicate, and to share our curiosities, without ego, and full of love.
Communication is the very founding thing that I believe is the most important key for any mind blowing sexual activity regardless. It helps you understand your partner on a level that alone can be mind blowing.
Back to the penis:
So what do you do now that you have your hands and eyes all over a penis?
Well here is something that I love to do! As a former massage therapist, I love to grab some coconut oil, and slowly start rubbing and caressing shone’s penis. There is no need for rush, I am not trying to get his penis hard in 2.5 seconds. I love the softness of the penis when it’s limp. The way the head flops and rolls around as it is handled. It’s fantastic! I love how relaxed the scrotum feels as I am rubbing coconut oil on them too!
I also learned that shone enjoys when I use my vibrator on his penis and or scrotum. Depending on the level of arousal, you can use the vibrator all over the penis. Want to get more acquainted with the penis. Check out this diagram or become a really super nerd and purchase one here. Not everybody is as familiar with the penis as they could be. Take some time to do your research. You’ll thank yourself for it! Use your vibrator and experiment, play, tease, and go for it!
**A few of my friends lately have mentioned that the balls are the center of their universe. And that if they are left out, that it is a major loss! Wether you are rubbing them, vibrating them, or pulling down on them, again, find out what your partner likes. It may differ from blow job to blow job.
**Some men have super sensitive scrotums, balls, shafts, and or head. Men who are not circumsized are much more sensitive. Spend some time one afternoon, or while cuddling in bed together in the morning, and discuss the uniqueness of your lover. Ask them what is sensitive, what is not. Do they like to have their penis grabbed hard or do they seem to get extra sensitive right before they are about to cum. Maybe they want it hard tonight, and not as gentle as last night. It always changes. Seriously, every man is different. The best thing you can do for each other is find out. (keep this in mind, the more you pave the way for communication, the more your partner will return the favor!)
Okay, so once the coconut oil comes out, and if you did not know how amazing coconut oil is, you might want to read here. If you and your partner use condoms, and wish to use coconut oil, you should read this first.
REMEMBER: Coconut oil is solid in room temperature because of the solidifying qualities of the fatty acids in the oil. No worries, you can either place your jar in a sink filled with warm to hot water, depending on how long you have, or simply scrape a little out and rub it in your hands. The body heat from your hands will melt the coconut oil, and it will glide smooth as butter!
I like to watch the penis slowly become erect. It’s so awesome!! All the while I love to kiss shone’s penis with soft kisses and tongue licks on the head. If you are (female) and by candlelight and or lighting, I highly recommend you being naked, or at least topless, men are very visual creatures, and will enjoy the bounce of your breasts as you massage his penis!!! You can also rub your breasts or nipples all over the penis.
–>would love some input here from a man giving a man a blow job! I know there is so much that I can learn this way, and I truly welcome any sharing!
Disclaimer:
**For most of you reading our blogs you’ll know that we have no discrimination of the sexes. We all live for pleasures and bliss. The views of multiple sexualities and likes are highly interesting to us. We can always learn from communicating with each other. If this does not suite you, we wish you love and hugs, and recommend that this blog might not be the best fit for you. We highly encourage you to keep an open mind, and get to know this amazing community. Everybody is so respecting of peoples boundaries, but we sure do love to share what we all know!
Remember that just as you are, you are one incredible blow jobbing machine. You have lips, hands, feet, tongue, nipples, toes, fingers, bellies, inner thighs, butt cheeks, cheeks, etc. Leave no body party unused!
There is plenty of room and space for you to create some of your own ideas. Really, there is no one size fits all, and no one technique is only good! This may take stepping outside of your comfort zone, it’s the only way for you to expand your horizons.
You can do it! You and your partner will benefit from it!
Currently my goal is to master the prostate.
What are some things that you all like? Would love for you to share! @nopantsdance and I will continue to share things in the comments here of information that we have gathered. Wether it’s a motivating blow job song, or a technique, or a question, feel free to bookmark this post, and check in every now and then. Update us with your experiences.
ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS:
keep a great attitude, enjoy yourself, lavish in his cock! if your hearts not in it it will show, understand what it is like if it were the other way around, what kind of energy do you want to receive when he (or she) is taking care of you. More on the vagina, pussy, cunt, in the future.
If you can’t open up to your partner, then you will never open up. He is there for you! Don’t worry! My favorite word is SLUT! you know why! because I am shone’s SLUT!! there is nothing I like more than when he calls me his slut! it’s so fucking hot!! It gets me all wet and juicy and makes me become a maneater!
Now get out there and start blowing some cock!
kisses
@gcrush
overachiever? continued readings:
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I couldn’t agree with @gcrush more..
A blow job is different for every man which is why I stretch the importance of communication with your lover and his penis.
A penis is like a finger print.. each is different and unique in it’s own way and what one man loves another may not like at all.. we all have preferences as to how we like to be touched, kissed ,licked ,sucked, spanked, pulled, and played with
The only way to find out what a guy likes is to ask.. and don’t be embarrassed about not knowing what to do with his penis in your mouth.. there isn’t a single person on earth who was born with blow job how-to knowledge.. we learn as we go.
I like to put his soft penis in my mouth and gently suck and massage it with my tongue to feel it grow.. like a delicious lollipop that gets harder and you suck. Once his cock is nice and hard I Like to flatten my tongue and lick all parts of the shaft.. feel the hard smooth texture resist the soft flexibility of my wet tongue.
I’ve spoken to several women who claim that they don’t like giving blow jobs for reasons such as: “i don’t like that gagging feeling”, “cum tastes disgusting”, “I don’t know if what i’m doing is the right stuff”, or “what’s in it for me?” what is it about giving a blow job that YOU don’t like? What is it that you DO like? If you’re wondering what’s in it for you then perhaps you’re not getting enjoyment out of satisfying this lover.. or just flip it around and suck his cock while he eats your pussy
simple solution hehee.. and again.. if you don’t like it then he is going to feel that from you while his cock is in your mouth so do what you like.. a blow job doesn’t have to be ALL or nothing. You can compromise with your lover and try new things without “taking one for the team”! a sexual relationship should be just as full of love and an emotional relationship.. even if it’s a one night stand
While its important to ask him what he does and doesn’t like.. remember to tell him what you do and don’t like. Don’t be afraid to tell as well as ask. And don’t be afraid to try new things. All sexual activities should be full of communication.
Here is a great response i got just by asking blow job advice on twitter:
# I much prefer a woman to take me in her mouth when I’m flaccid and the feeling of growing in her mouth is wonderful
# Sharply squeezing testicles is generally not fun for males (most anyway)
# Gagging noises can be a turn off, do what’s comfortable for you
# if you don’t look like you are enjoying it, I can’t enjoy it either
# Even if we don’t have time to finish, taking me in your mouth anywhere, anytime, is something that is so memorable and erotic.
# stopping to kiss my tummy once in a while is very erotic
# Because faces are such a personal part of our bodies, more than anything else, the sight of a woman taking you into her mouth is extremely powerful. When you do it, I want to be able to see. The visual is as, or more, important than the sensations.
And that was just a response from ONE guy!
Guys.. leave a comment.. let us know what you like because perhaps you haven’t had enough variety in blow jobs to know what it is that you really love about it. Share your tips and likes so that we may try new things with our lovers.
I would like to put an end to the idea that women have to look and act a certain way to be considered sexy in bed. I DO want to promote the idea of open and respectful sexual exploration! If you are present and aware and enjoy giving as much as you are receiving, then you will have more beauty and sexual energy than you could have ever imagined.
My favorite part about being with a new lover is the clean sexual slate.. I never hold back with a partner, but it seems like a first time lover is always more open to trying new sexual treats
I would love to hear any of your suggestions and ideas. I look forward to the next time i get to fill my mouth with a beautiful cock.. I want to go on a date and surprisingly put his cock in my mouth in a hallway.. in a random closet.. under a table [or on the table]
And remember what @gcrush said.. “you are one incredible blow jobbing machine” LOVE IT!!
Thanks for sharing
Love&Gratitude,
——>@gcrush
oh yes, what great information goddess! I love your contributions! oh thank goodness for twitter! Seriously so thankful for the fun and adventures we get to live through the clicks of our fingers! dayum! as (@catwomany69y2k) always says!)
Ooh this is so fun too! I am looking forward to keeping this one going! lots of sharing in our comments everybody! Let’s keep it fun! and so fucking hot!
share! share! share!
We’ll all learn a lot from each other! I love to learn and am personally so curious about life! It’s the best playground ever to explore! It never gets stale!
I really like the “regardless of finishing or not, placing the cock in the mouth in all kinds of random places is memorable and erotic! DING! DING! DING! DING! I am inspired to place shone’s cock in my mouth even more now! I think I’ll become like dancing matt, that guy who does the little adorable dance all over the world….well I’ll be the blowing georgette, the girl that places shone’s cock in her mouth all over the world!!! ha ha
I look forward to reading your juicy comments!!! oh and by the way YES!!! I LOVE to swallow!! A question shone asked me a long time ago when we were first getting to know each other. He said that I passed the test! Ha ha!
**I have also increased the amount of time that I place shones cock in my mouth thanks to this post. wether it’s waking him up in the morning, playing with him before we have sex, or in the back room while I am bartending
, any time is the right time to share a connection!
I am looking forward to your comments and input. Wether it’s a song, a technique, (for instance one time I heard that a guy loved a finger in his belly button!) you just never know what feels good until you are willing to go for it! Let’s go for it!
Wether you give or receive, or both. We are here to learn and love!